Nice girls don't make money. They don't get rich. Only mean, ruthless, arrogant, cold women have what it takes to make a lot of money.
That's what I used to believe. That's what a lot of my clients used to believe. And maybe that's what you still believe. But, it really couldn't be further from the truth.
Unfortunately, when we believe this thought, we are left with two choices: be nice and poor or be mean and rich. Personally, neither choice sounds... well... nice.
What's nice is that we have the choice every day to choose how we spend our money. And when we take a look at how we spend our money, we see that we tend choose the nice over the mean.
Think about it...
If one sales clerk is rude and the other one nice, who do you ask for help?
If one waitress makes snide comments about your kids, and the other brings them crayons to keep them busy, who do you tip more?
If one doctor treats you like a number, and the other makes time to answer your questions, who are you loyal to?
If one teacher treats their class like a bunch of snot-nosed brats, and the other loves their students, whose class do you fight like hell to get your child into?
The truth is: we choose nice over mean every day. We choose to give our money to the nice waitress, the nice store clerk, the nice doctor, the nice teacher. We buy books from the nice author. We watch movies created by nice people. We buy computers, cell phones, and cameras that are created and sold by nice people. We are attracted to niceness. We like niceness. And we like to spend our money on niceness.
Does that mean we don't give our money to mean people? Of course not. But, when given the choice, we all tend to choose the nice over the mean.
When I used to believe that 'nice girls don't make money', I was constantly frustrated because I felt like I either had to go against who I was (a nice girl) or I had to learn to do without money. And without realizing it, this belief branched into other supporting beliefs that had a far-reaching impact in my financial life. I believed that wanting to be nice made me 'bad with money'. I believed that I would be punished financially for being kind. I thought that being generous meant that I was a naive business woman. I believed that I had to be cold hearted, unemotional, and removed in order to be successful.
Of course, I was horrible at trying to do that. It just wasn't me. I couldn't be cold-hearted. I couldn't be unemotional. And I was very invested in my business, with my music students and with the teachers who worked for me. I wasn't aware that my beliefs could be questioned. I had no idea the impact my thoughts had in my life. All I knew at the time was that I felt guilty for being me, I felt ashamed of how I wanted to do business, and I felt stupid for not being able to figure it all out.
And now I know better.
I now know that our beliefs are the filters through which our lives are created.
I know that what I choose to believe directly determines the way I feel and the life I live. I know that nice girls do, in fact, make money. I know that the nicer I am, the more successful I become. I know that my kindness makes me 'good with money'. I know that I am rewarded financially for being authentically generous. I know that my love for my clients makes me a confident business woman. I know that I need to be loving, open, honest, emotional and engaged in order to be successful.
And this applies to you, too. Your niceness makes us want to support you. Your niceness makes us want to hire you. Your niceness makes us want to buy your products, pay for your services, be your loyal client, your loyal patient and your grateful customer.
Nice girls do get rich.