It's kinda funny how I live and breathe thought-work and yet I am still absolutely shocked when it works.
It's like, duh.
What did I think was going to happen? That it wouldn't work?
So here's the event that triggered my latest need to use my own coaching.
It's called Tuesday morning.
As in the Tuesday after a 3 day weekend.
More specifically the Tuesday after the 3-day-4th-of-July weekend that I spent at the lake in my homemade-island of happiness. (Picture floatie, add a giant sun-shielding umbrella held with my big toe for stability, my pink watered-down-because-ice-melts-really-fast-in-100+temperatures cocktail, giant sunglasses, tons of sunsceen, and my no-brain-cells-needed summer reading... add these together and you get homemade-island of happiness.)
I digress... back to Tuesday morning.
Before I even opened my eyes - I felt this sinking feeling. Ugh.
I hate sinking feelings.
This was worse than a I-need-coffee-and-now sinking feeling.
This was like actual dread.
I am not a fan of dread.
I used to feel that feeling all the time. I was used to it. I could tolerate it.
But now... it's shocking. And horrible.
I laid there for a while and then took my dread for a walk to my coffee maker.
Then I took it with me to my computer. Opened it. 5 million emails (I've already told you that I never exaggerate). All important. Ugh.
Dread got bigger.
Then, miraculously. Through the pink-drink-soaked web of brain cells, two neurons made contact.
Oh my gosh! I know how to fix this.
I can coach myself.
So here's the dialogue that I had with myself:
Coach Self: What's up with the dread? What's the thought causing it?
Pink Drink Self: I have so much work to do. I don't know where to start. I will never finish. I need to get that kit on my site. I have all those classes to edit. I need to correct the coaches' tests. I need to listen to the other coach's recordings, I needtocheckmy5millionemailsand...
Coach Self: Woah.... slow down. First of all... You don't have SO much work to do. You have your work to do. Period. And you do know where to start. And you know that it is never done and that's ok. So what's really bothering you?
Pink Drink Self: I have a bunch of half-finished projects - and my people prefer to pay me money when my projects are fully finished.
Coach Self: Ok - that's the one to work.
Pink Drink Self: (writing in journal now - using Brooke's Self Coaching Model)
Circumstance (C): Tuesday morning
Thought (T): I have a bunch of half-finished projects and will never finish them which means I will never be paid and then I will be broke and then I will be known as the worst money coach ever. (A little dramatic - but that's what I was thinking)
Feeling (F): DREAD (Ahhhh... there you are you sneaky bastard... I found the thought causing you. HA!)
Action (A): Open my laptop and religiously facebook, read my horoscope, and delete spam (totally productive, shut up.)
Result (R): I end up with a bunch of half-finished projects and no income.
NEW BETTER FEELING MODEL
C: Tuesday morning
T: I can totally do this.
F: determined (soooo much better than dread)
A: friggin work my ass off and commit to not facebooking, chatting or anything else for the next two work days until my projects are DONE
Better. (Hence the title of this post.)
So... two days later... one new thought created:
- A WAY better feeling
- A new web page with a bunch of finished and awesome things to share with you
- And I have a new blog post.
Honestly... try my thought out and see if it works for you.
I can totally do this.
(If you're not from California - you might want to drop the 'totally' as you may not be as comfortable with surfer-speak as I am... but feel free to insert another word of your choice there.)