In our Art of Self Coaching Class last week, one of our clients said that she didn't want what she had. To be clear, she specifically said she didn't want to be in debt. She didn't want to have financial struggle. She didn't want to be stressed about money.
And she was wrong.
She has the exact financial life that she wants to have.
And so do I.
And so do you.
This statement led to a half-hour coaching session as well as a week's worth of controversy on our class forum.
The way we feel boils down to the specific thoughts that we choose to think. And the thought, "I don't have what I want" creates struggle, stress and argues with reality. There is no way to find peace with this thought. It gives away your responsibility and your ability to change your life. And it gives away all of your power.
When you feel powerless, you become immobilized. When you feel like your financial life is beyond your control, you don't take measured action to create change.
And I know that this might be a pretty difficult concept to swallow at first. For most of us, it's way more fun to blame the economy, our husbands, our bosses, and my personal favorite: the evil credit card companies for our current financial lives.
But the truth is, we really do have the exact financial life that we truly want.
Every thing we have spent money on was our very own CHOICE. Every little cent of it. We spend our money on those things because we WANT TO.
You may think, "But, I didn't want to pay my taxes, or my utilities, or my credit card bills." But that's not true. You wanted to pay for these things way more than you wanted to deal with the consequences of NOT paying. We choose to pay taxes over going to jail. We choose to pay our power bill rather than sit in the dark.
Just as everything we've spent has been our choice, every dollar we have earned has been our CHOICE as well. We have chosen how, when, where and why we earn the money that we do.
We have the job (or not) that we have chosen to accept. We have agreed to be paid what we are paid. We are not victims of circumstance, we have made deliberate choices to be where we are.
So, if we EARN what we want and we SPEND what we want... then we do end up having THE EXACT AMOUNT WE WANT.
This is good news. This gives us back our power to create a better life. It gives us control over where we are and what direction we want to choose from here forward. If we realize that our choices have created the financial life that we currently have, then we have the ability to change our future financial choices.
We can choose to spend less.
We can choose to make more.
When I asked myself this question: Do I have the financial life that I want to have? The answer was, "Yes. This is the exact financial life that I DID want. And now I'm going to create the financial life that I know I'm capable of creating."
There's a beautiful poem by Hafiz that says:
This place where you are right now.
God circled on a map for you.
In that light, I'd say.
This place where you financially stand right now.
You circled on a map for yourself.
And from that place.
You can go anywhere.