You can’t hate your bank account into being rich. You can’t criticize your body into being thin. You can’t resent your career into success. And you can’t bitch your relationship into true everlasting love.
But people try to do this every day. People like you. People like me.
We focus on things we don’t like. And we think that this focus is what facilitates change. As if hating something enough will make it disappear.
This hate, resent, criticizing and bitching that we practice creates a tremendous amount of un-needed suffering for us. It makes our lives more complicated. It creates an incredible emotional burden. And it has zero payoff. This strategy is a guaranteed fail.
If we want to create lasting change. We have to learn to love. In fact we have to learn to love the very thing that we want to change.
We must learn to love the bank account - even if there are only twenty-nine pennies in it. We have to focus on what is right rather than what is wrong. We have to choose to see what we have as ‘enough’ rather than focusing on the fantasy amount that doesn’t exist.
We must learn to love the body even with the extra l-b’s on it. We have to practice appreciating the vehicle that travels us through our lives. Flaws and all. Only through love and acceptance will we be able to truly care for the body that we want to sculpt. The vehicle we want to enhance.
Sometimes we are afraid of allowing ourselves to love the imperfect. As if this means that we are lowering our standards. Or that we are terminally giving up hope.
It’s the exact opposite.
If we want true wealth. We have to learn to truly love wealth. Even when that wealth is simply one dollar. We must learn to love it. Respect it. Focus on what we have. Focus on what we’ve created. Focus on the ability to change rather than on the phantoms of the life that we ‘think’ we’re supposed to be living.
If we want fitness - we have to learn to love our body. All of it. We can’t reject the parts we don’t like. We must learn to love, respect and care-take our entire body. We have to inhabit our body as a full-time resident. Become the CEO and caretaker of the organization instead of ignoring it.
You can have a better life. A better relationship. More money. A better body.
You truly can create anything that you put your mind to.
But to truly change - you must learn to love where you are. Right now.
The point of change.
All of your power.
And your entire future resides in this moment.